Facebook Faux Pas?

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I'm just as guilty as the next person when in comes to Facebook stalking---err-- "research". I have certainly seen wedding photos of Facebook friends mere minutes after they stepped into their venue. Guests are excited and iPhones and Blackberries come out to play and before you know it, your months of planning and preening are reduced to a photo on someone's "Mobile Uploads".

Maybe this is a bit of a stretch, but with all the dough we are dishing out for professional photos, I'm not sure if I want Facebook to be the first platform to present our wedding day on. Is it wrong for me to ask our guests not to post photos of us on their Facebook? It is a vacation for many of them, and I understand  it is their own experience and obviously I'm not opposed to sharing photos of themselves or the winery or any of the pre or post-events. I'm certainly not going to ask my friends not to post their own photos, but can I ask them not to post photos of the Bride and Groom?

I want to be able to pick and choose which photos I want to share with the world. Is that too much to ask? In the era of insta-share, is it okay for me to want to keep our wedding day a little close to the chest?  I am totally one of those people who 'un-tags' themselves in bad photos!!! I sort of feel weird placing a Facebook ban on wedding photos. I have seen ideas where the couple asks friends to upload their photos to online albums, so I know that is an option. Help me hive! Am I being too much of a brat? What is the best way to go about this situation?